Oneness with Horses Pt2

“In the pursuit of knowledge, every day something is added.

In the pursuit of oneness, every day something is dropped.”

- Tracy Courtney


We need to return to where we began with horses, as someone who loved them because of who they were and not what they could do for us. We need to return to that inquisitive humility of when we didn’t know anything about horses, were curious and fascinated by everything they did. When we look to external sources, everyone perceives things differently which just adds confusion. Everyone has a different idea about the circumstances that create problems, the real source of problems and how the problems should be handled. What if we wiped the slate clean of all of these concepts? Removed the unnecessary minutia that creates all of this confusion, that leads to conflict with others and within ourselves? What if we just emptied our minds of all judgements, beliefs and suppositions and stood quietly with our horses in our original curiosity and wonder just for a few minutes? What would happen in most cases, is that your horse would stop the behaviour, turn and look at you out of curiosity. Why? Because they have been conditioned to expect you to be reactive. Instead of telling them who they are and how they should behave, you have just asked them to enter into a discussion with you where they will be allowed to have an opinion. This is like you going to work every day and being verbally abused by a co-worker who you believe hates you. You come to expect this behaviour and then suddenly one day, they are asking how you are and acting like they’re your best friend out of genuine interest. How would you respond?


Fearless is not a doctrine or series of steps to memorize and practice. It can only be learned through your own experiences with your horse, by asking questions, allowing responses and creating solutions through mutual dialogue, without interference. This is how the door to the third language is opened. This negates the need to ask questions of anyone else, the use of gadgets or learned helplessness which is created through dictation and force. This type of experiential learning will only strengthen your trust and belief in your horse and yourself without outside influences.

When we become quiet mentally, emotionally and physically, we become more observant and we discover that attempts to categorically control our horses will always be interrupted by the spontaneity of variables beyond our control. Evolution means pushing the limitations of our minds and the traditional boundaries we have constructed. The fundamental aspects of the methods we have devised; control and force, actually move us out of connection with the natural flow of horses. As a result, we experience conflict. Control is built from experiences of the past and a plan toward a future goal. This creates an impenetrable wall between our horses who live in the present and us who live in the past.


The things we have learned to this point mustn’t be viewed as wrong or a mistake. These things were important and needed stepping-stones to get us where we are today. We’re accustomed to an exclusive view of horses, where we are the teacher and they are the students; a subordinate. We have to adopt an inclusive view and treat horses as our equals, who will morph into patient and valuable teachers. We have to include their opinions and feelings about the subjects we ask them to learn, as they will do for us. When we begin to see things through the eyes of our horses, this will create a sense of mutual and deep trust. This trust is what will begin to morph into a sense on oneness. When you can fully trust your horse, that’s when you become one with them. This is where the third language can be found. Step methods teach us about horses only from a self-centered and intellectual view because any dogma is in its essence separate and isolated.


Humans have developed numerous methods of trying to explain horses and the best way to create a relationship with them, but many of these are based in intellectual pursuits rather than a direct experience of oneness through the third language, which is a horse’s natural language. In our overemphasis on the intellectual, we have lost sight of trying to connect to horses on their level of existence. When we get stuck in intellectual meanings and dissecting the world like the mechanisms of a machine, we impose our beliefs on the natural world and don’t allow it to express or live on its own terms. Our dissections create a sense of separateness from everything else. The use of the first two languages of thought and speech, that are based in intellect, negates and doesn’t allow for the third language which is beyond the intellect.


When we listen, allow and trust our horses completely, our mental, emotional and physical being harmonizes with our horses. When we practice silence of being, the rhythms of our bodily functions and mental states move as an extension of our horses. In order to reach the meld of oneness, we must follow the path of least resistance, with silence. When we try to control horses, we create anxiety within ourselves because we fear the uncertainty of the future. We try to dictate the future through our plans and although they may seem theoretically sound, they are just distractions from our true goal of becoming one with our horses. Our attempts at controlling and changing horses are the result of us separating ourselves from living in the present moment. But it’s only when we can join our horses in their natural state of being in the present moment, through expanded awareness, that we can experience the third language and truly become one.


When we step outside of all the learning we cling to, we come back into the experiential sense of being one with our horse. It’s our own choice to experience this oneness, as it depends on no external source. We have to begin to move away from archaic practices of molding horses according to our personal agendas. Repetitive step processes are considered to be necessary in order to solve problems and create a deeper connection but their application in common use are actually designed to create separation. Any attempt to impose our will on horses destroys our ability to truly understand and find that meld, because the intention to change something is built on the illusion of separation. We are trying to change horse behaviour according to our own beliefs and preferences. We cannot work toward that meld with horses without mutual trust, discussion or understanding. Trust and oneness can only happen when we are willing to let go of our conditioned, self-serving beliefs and let our horses guide us through the third language.


Trust and oneness with horses can only come to those who are willing to let go of the mind’s filters of conditioning. We can’t rely on the influence of others, but must listen to our own horses and ourselves. When we force our horses to conform, we are blind and deaf to what our horses have been trying to teach us all along. The third language can only be known when all operations of force and control have stopped within your own psyche. We are all capable of understanding the third language, but it is veiled by our conditioning. Anything built on boundaries, although it may work within those boundaries, has nothing to do with the third language or being in true oneness with our horses.