We can't know what we don't know... A child who is raised in an abusive environment (characterized by dominance, power and control), through no fault of their own, will treat others in the same way or choose to shut down. Cohesive behaviour patterns or coping/balancing mechanisms were never offered as a choice, therefore the child has no concept of any other way of being. Alternatively, those responsible for creating the abusive environment are often repeating conditioned behaviour and are unaware that they are doing anything wrong or that there is any another way of being.
- "Traditionally accepted forms of behaviour that we have been conditioned to believe are normal, such as a high head, weaving, cribbing & fear"
Characteristic patterns of change... Just as our horses have been conditioned through repetition to adopt particular habits and patterns mentally, emotionally and physically, we have also been conditioned through many sources to behave in common and predictable patterns as well. Acknowledging and accepting this truth is where real and lasting change begins. It's not that these sources taught us unhealthy habits intentionally, they were doing the best they could with how they had been conditioned to believe, think, feel and act.
- "Traditionally accepted forms of horse training that we have been conditioned to believe are normal & correct, such as using tie-downs, draw-reins, lunging & drilling"
The roots of change... Habits and patterns have power over us because of our belief that they create comfort and security. In order to affect lasting change, we must understand that we aren't only changing muscle memory, but the underlying and sometimes deeply rooted mental and emotional belief systems as well. Although children in abusive environments may be unhappy, there is a sense of comfort and security that comes from the repetition of consistent habits and knowing what to expect. Once there is a change or removal from the environment, an escalation of stress, anxiety and volcanic emotional eruptions are normal because the child no longer has a sense of where they belong or how to act, think or feel in the new environment.
- "This is part of the reason we bring home a perfectly well-mannered horse who quickly becomes a tornado"
Becoming the change...For centuries, humans have relied on stallions as the roll model to explain the complex structures of the equine family unit and have developed many techniques based on these representative observations of dictatorship, power, control and dominance. We are taught to view our interactions with horses as though we're going to war, complete with battle strategies and counter measures because we have been conditioned through example, to believe that "horses are naturally obstinate, lazy, defiant and they can't think for themselves".
- "Learned helplessness comes in many forms & often in ways we wouldn't consider"
Newton wasn't the first one to see an apple fall from a tree, but he was the first one to ask why? In a society that has been conditioned to adopt slogans like "just do it", we may not be fully aware of how deeply these phrases impact our daily lives. If we begin to examine the relationship between horses and humans, it won't take long to realize that we approach our training sessions with horses using this unspoken slogan. It's time to return to the fact that the Bell Mare is the true leader of the herd and begin to implement the balanced qualities she brings to the family unit as a teacher, through guidance in self-realization, presence, trust and patience.
All babies are born as dry sponges looking to soak up all of the exciting new experiences that life has to offer. All behaviours are learned habits that are created and escalate in consistent, predictable patterns and rates. All habits can be changed. Horses and people believe they are subject to their environment because alternatives have never been given to offer a better path of mental, emotional and physical balance. The choice is now available to remain in an outdated system, always looking to external sources for solutions that don't work, or having the courage to face the uncomfortable change of looking inward and becoming the Holistic Master Horseman you've always wanted to be!
"The more you know, the less you understand" - Tracy Courtney
Knowledge is the pursuit of structure, rules & boundaries
Understanding is the pursuit of questioning, listening & feeling
Humans exist through a contracted, singular awareness (spotlight scanning) & are only cognizant primarily from the visual aspect of the immediate surroundings & oblivious to everything outside of this focus. We often have an expanded preservation loop & focus on objects or situations singularly. We shut down all senses to switch focus from one object to another. Humans further obscure and limit their awareness by placing the bulk of their focus on internal thought processes, which further contracts their awareness & blocks out more of their environment.
Horses exist through an expanded, multi-focal (simultaneous) awareness. They are connected to everything in their environment through all senses. They are always fully aware of every inch of their body & where all things are in relation to their body. They don't detach any of their senses when switching focal points, but instead, adjust focal intensity to particular objects as needed.
When you let go of your mental processing, you can be much more present, you can be much more spontaneous, & you can be less attached to results. The mind likes victories. The mind likes goals. The mind likes accomplishments, beginnings & ends. But what if the story is meant to go on & on and on with many twists and turns, with no end in sight? What if your heart could show you a way to get even more than your mind could imagine? Everything slows down. Nothing seems as significant as it once did. You can relax. You can let go of all of those goals & all of those attachments to your accomplishments, you can be present & feel more alive in your willingness to engage in the present moment with the whole of who you & your horse are. The mind has its place. The mind helps you to focus, but it is best utilized when it is helping you to focus on something in the present, rather than something in the past or something in the projected future.
Our choices are governed by our emotions to a larger degree than we realize. Emotions strongly effect learning, they are intertwined with perception & attention, & they interact with learning & memory. Emotional stimulation has a great bearing on the association & retention of memories. Emotional elevation over-rides our ability to think, be observant & rational. An elevation in emotion creates stress & anxiety which will lead to consistently tense muscles that can cause aches & sprains because the body can't move properly.
When we're faced with an overwhelming sense of worry, stress & anxiety, we release those emotions through friends, family & counselling services to help us re-balance. Our horses feel the same range of emotions that we do, & young horses experience an emotional rollercoaster of emotions as they’re learning to navigate a brand-new culture & language in our human herds, which is vastly different from wild equine life.
I would like you to consider how your daily life is governed by your emotions. We can all relate to instances in our lives when an elevation in emotion caused us to become clumsy, injure ourselves, drive right past our house or forget an important event. Objects, people and circumstances in our environment have no meaning in themselves, they just are. We attach meaning to these things through our personal perception of the events & how they make us feel. That’s why two people can have completely different insights after having shared the exact same experience
Our daily lives are governed by habits and patterns & the same holds true for our horses. Habits are energy savers, which allow us to go into auto-pilot, so we can free our minds for other things. Habits have power over us because of our belief that they provide comfort & security. In order to affect lasting change, we must understand that we aren't only changing muscle memory. To change a physical habit, we must change the underlying mental & emotional belief system as well. When beginning to replace an established unwanted behaviour with a new acceptable behaviour, it’s normal to have resistance to the changes.
It’s important to understand the programming behind the behaviours of our horses & ourselves. Our horses can be viewed like little robots who are easily programmed to do as we ask or allow. What we don’t realize is that we create all of the programming & are responsible for every single behaviour elicited. This is true of both wanted & unwanted behaviours. The more repetition, the more established the behaviours will become & the harder to change. We have also been programmed throughout our lives to believe that we must look to external sources for causes of unwanted behaviour but the real root cause is our own programming of beliefs & habits, which result in unbalanced emotions.
How do you earn a horses trust - by showing them you can remain calm, slow & decisive under pressure. You earn their respect by listening – giving choices, opinions, patience, slowing down for time to think & work through problems. This is the opposite of how we have been programmed to work with horses
"Self-improvement doesn't just revolve around learning what to do. Our greatest lessons come from understanding what not to do"
- Tracy Courtney