Letting Go & Creating Flow
Letting Go & Creating Flow
What is flow? Flow is a perfect connection & balanced movement with another. We can observe flow in nature when we see a flock of flying birds, a school of fish or a herd of wild horses moving together in perfect harmony. It goes far beyond the physical aspects of movement & requires mental & emotional connection as well. There is so much nature has been trying to teach us but are we listening? If we took the time to analyze how this flow is achieved, we can learn some very interesting facts about ourselves with how we view & approach the world in comparison to the rest of nature. We must be willing to let go in order to create flow.
If we observe the visual aspects of natural flow, we see there is continuous movement. The movements are in wave forms, twisting & turning, like flowing water. It's simple, yet elegant & sophisticated. I have always maintained that mental & emotional balanced flow will always lead to physical balanced flow without having to address behaviour directly or individually. If we compare the mental & emotional aspects of natural flow, we can observe some interesting differences between nature & humans.
In nature, thoughts, feelings & emotions are fluid & they flow in harmony with physical motions. Animals live in the moment, experience life minute by minute & react as is necessary to what shows up. They don't perceive anything in their environment as personal, worry about the past or project about what the future may hold. They don't stop to analyze situations/obstacles, wonder where they went wrong or why they're being punished. They don't make lasting decisions on how they're going to choose to feel about circumstances, places or others. They don't hold strong beliefs on how things should be done, right or wrong or trying to control the movements of others.
When an obstacle is presented, they don't stop to make choices or consider infinite possibilities, they fully trust the decisions of the leader because they have proven to be firm but fair in their decisions. They then forget about the obstacle passed to be able to experience what each new moment brings. This way of perceiving the world allows space for new experiences to be presented but not held onto, which create cluttering of the mind & senses, that will lead to tension & discomfort in the body. This way of existence allows for continual flow.
If we were to imagine a flock of humans flying in formation, people would be slamming into each other & dropping from the sky in bunches. Humans live predominantly in the past & looking toward the future. We have been conditioned since childhood to act quickly, precisely & impatiently. To stop all physical, mental & emotional processes & focus on specific thoughts & actions. We impose these same rules on horses because it seems natural to us.
When we were given assignments in school & asked to clean our rooms, there was always a sense of urgency to complete tasks. We've been taught that things have to occur in specific sequences or boxes in order to accomplish goals first & receive rewards later. This conditioning has become so normal, that we never consider to question our motivations, beliefs or actions. It's just the way it is & has always been - natural. But is it?
When we don't know the answers, there's space for discovery. When there's a sense that we know, we tend to hold onto these things as truth, which doesn't allow for expansion of new discoveries. We don't focus on or bring attention to things that don't matter to us or happen naturally. We embrace these ideas of who we are & what we know but if we begin to let go, be quiet & observe, at certain stages we have felt very different about who we are & the beliefs we've had. We cannot be ridged with any thoughts or beliefs because they are only self-portraits of the moment.
Force anger & frustration are caused by a need to always be in control. We must deconstruct somewhat in order to open space & allow the undoing of what we think we know. Most of the trouble stems from mistrust, the fear of not knowing, the opinions of others & controlling what's going to happen.
If we spent time thinking about the many different methods available to work with horses, what would we conclude is the underlying theme? They require boxes of sequencing & making horses do things, regardless of what it is. They're based on dictatorship, control & micromanagement. They teach us how to have conversations with horses that are in our best interest & don't allow for natural flow. These common methods work as a start-stop process, in an active & reactive concept. We have a series of steps to attain & think we're making great progress when we see our horses perform these sequential physical movements, but this isn't a partnership that allows for flow.
We have been conditioned to believe that intermediate states of learning are staging posts between where we started & where we want to be. We believe that there must be gruelling periods of discomfort around & through the learning curves to reach new successful levels of knowledge & performance. When we believe that certain things have to exist or occur in sequence for other things to function correctly, this does not allow for natural flow. We alone are choosing to indulge in thoughts, activities & habits that give us a false sense that these things are needed for other things to work or be ok. This is appealing to different types of personalities because it seems consistent with the rest of life as we've known it.
"Mastery is not found in the pursuit of becoming, but in the realization of unbecoming" - Tracy Courtney
Parameters, the first of the workshops in the Fearless process, shows us how to create natural flow & a magnetic connection with horses. It helps us to understand & let go of previous programming based on force, dictatorship, control & creating boxes. We begin to understand how to move with our horse naturally through guidance, listening & redirection. To see horses through new eyes & understand them through the power of silence - non-verbal sensory awareness.
We learn where our energy & focus is most important to creating the connection & flow & how to allow our horse to lead the discussion to facilitate turning our horse's ideas into our ideas with ease. We also learn some important new concepts such as looking without linking, the first rule of the herd, creating confidence & relaxation in explosive & aggressive horses, using an emotional scale to list & rate behaviour, self-control & understanding & expressing emotional volcanic eruptions. We will see in real time, how all unwanted behaviour will disappear without having to address it individually or directly.